The kids get higher SAT math scores, and are disproportionately represented among U. National Merit Scholars Zhao and Qiu A recent study of American tenth graders found that Asian-Americans outperformed all other ethnic groups in math and science Else-Quest et al Why is this the case?
CFP When speaking of "Chinese parents," words like controlling, strict, and authoritarian usually come to mind, thanks in part to Amy Chua, a Yale law professor, who wrote about how she educated her two daughters as a "Tiger Mother" almost two years ago.
But why are Chinese parents, and perhaps parents in East Asian countries as well, so controlling? Scientists are trying to unravel the cultural and psychological reasons behind it. A study by psychologists proposes that the reason why Chinese parents are more controlling probably lies in the fact that they are more likely to associate their children's performance, in school and in life, with their own worth.
But social pressure, tradition of obedience may also play a part. Parents and children were surveyed twice over a year to indicate the extent to which the parents used psychological controlling practices, which usually involved emotional punishment, such as inducing guilt.
For instance, if a child does something the parents don't like, parents may act less friendly toward it or tell the child that they should feel guilty. Child-based worth Some examples of psychological manipulation can be found in Chua's story.
In her book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, Chua, a Chinese-American, wrote about her constant battles with Chinese vs western parents two daughters as she pushed them to excel in school, piano and violin. She wrote that any grade less than an A was unacceptable and sleepovers or play dates were not allowed.
When her daughter refused to practice the piano, she called her "lazy, cowardly, self-indulgent and pathetic.
For instance, parents were asked to rate to what extent they feel bad about themselves when their child fails, or whether their child's failure makes them feel ashamed.
The study found that Chinese mothers based their worth on children's performance more than European and African American mothers, and that this contributed to the difference in parental control among Chinese and American mothers.
This research doesn't just look at the differences between Chinese and US parents, but it established a correlation between parents' child-based worth and their use of psychological control.
It means that mothers with greater child-based worth are more controlling, said Florrie Fei-Yin Ng, a professor of psychology at Chinese University of Hong Kong, and lead author of the paper. In Chinese communities, parents often compare their children's performances either in public or in private.
Parents often say to their children, "We're doing this for your own good" or "Everything I did, I did for you. According to a study that compares the use of lies by US and Chinese parents, while the vast majority of parents in both countries have lied to their children to influence their behaviors, Chinese parents lie more and approve of it to a greater degree than their US counterparts.
Scientists in the US, China and Canada showed parents in the US and 85 in China a list of lies that parents might use with their children. Parents were told to identify whether they'd used such statements and rate to what extent these lies are acceptable.
Some of the lies sound like common parenting tricks: It suggests that instrumental lying may be more common among Chinese parents who expressed greater acceptance of parental lying, even though parents in both countries view lying as a negative attribute in children.
But when it comes to lying in order to protest their children's feelings, Chinese parents lie in fewer instances than US parents, according to the study.
The results are consistent with differences between Asian Americans and Americans of European descent, the paper writes. Researchers suggest that cross-cultural differences may reflect "greater concern with social cohesiveness and a greater emphasis on respect and obedience in Asian cultures that encourages parents to be more willing to lie to achieve these ends.
It can promote positive development and prevent your child from going astray. Wang Qian, a professor of psychology at Chinese University and Hong Kong, and Eva Pomerantz, professor of psychology at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, have both spent years studying the effect of different parenting techniques on children's development and comparing the differences of Chinese and Western parents.
It is usually believed that parental control may have a greater impact on children in Western culture which places more emphasis on independence than in East Asian cultures. But inWang and Pomerantz published a study that showed similarly negative effects of parental control on children's psychological functioning in the US and in China.
Many parents, especially Chinese parents, have a tendency to center their whole life around their children. It's an unhealthy relationship, said Ng. Over the years there have been sporadic reports of such parent-child tension exploding in more extreme ways such as suicide, patricide or matricide.
Many young people are also now voicing their anger and frustration at their parents. A group called "Parents are hazards" exists on Douban, a social media network in China.
Founded inthe group now has close to 64, members.
Teenagers and young adults tell stories about how their parents pressured, controlled and oppressed them seemingly without regard to their personal interests and emotional well-being. However, involvement of parents in their children's life isn't always a bad thing.
There have been studies that show a marked degree of parental involvement in education improves children's performances in school. Cultural factors Drawing on other studies, Ng and her co-authors listed a number of cultural factors that may contribute to more controlling parents.
Chinese culture is more interdependent and is often considered a "face" culture. Therefore "parents may incorporate children's accomplishments into their view of themselves," they wrote. Zou Hong, a professor of developmental psychology at Beijing Normal University, agrees that the traditional belief that parents are responsible for children's education and accomplishments is an important factor in parents' heightened involvement in children's lives.Chinese parents aren't concerned with the wants of the child and make decisions on what they feel is best.
Western parents are very much in . Couples of Chinese men and Western women are a rarity. Why is that? Jocelyn, an American who has a Chinese husband, explores the reasons. SETTLEMENT PATTERNS Economic development and racial exclusion defined the patterns of Chinese American settlement.
Before the Chinese Exclusion Act of , the patterns of Chinese settlement followed the patterns of economic development of the western states.
The Wuhan Gang & The Chungking Gang, i.e., the offsprings of the American missionaries, diplomats, military officers, 'revolutionaries' & Red Saboteurs and the "Old China Hands" of the s and the herald-runners of the Dixie Mission of the s.
Chua uses the terms "Chinese mother" and Western parent" throughout her book to refer to the type of parent a person is, below is an explanation of her meaning of this.
This is her direct. Harith Iskandar's take on Asian vs Western parenting is definitely apt, scroll down for the video! Like 'The Battle Hymn of The Tiger Mother by Amy Chua', we can all relate to having parents like Chua or being a Tiger Parent like Chua.